Some People...

Listening to: "Backstabber" - Ke$ha

Oh, how perfectly the song fits what's been happening for the past few days. Some people... really piss me off.

A tip of advice: NEVER say anything online, that you don't want other people finding out about. And secondly, NEVER fully trust someone. Watch what you say, to everyone. People change, long story short. And when people change, friendships change too. Sometimes for the worse.

Also, never talk about friends online, to other friends, even if you just need to vent. Make a blog, or find a site where you can post those sorts of things, where your friends can't see. This stands for ALL COMPLAINTS about anything your friends do, that you dislike. Don't complain to another friend, no matter how close you and that friend may be.

REMEMBER, it is very easy to save IM conversations, and retrieve them at a later date. This goes for Aim, Windows Messenger... any instant messenger. If the program doesn't have an automatic IM-archiving feature, IMs can still be easily copy and pasted into a text document, and saved for later.

To sum this all up, and to tell you what happened to me... (this is my form of venting, so that no friends will see) I had a best friend, named Marie.We told each other everything, and she archived all her IM conversations, and never told me. (I did not archive IMs, I did not even know it was possible) Then one day, she decided she never wanted to speak to me again. Four months later Marie dug up an IM I sent her quite a while back, complaining about how one of my other friends (Elizabeth) had done something to anger me. My ex-bestfriend sent the IM to Elizabeth, and Elizabeth now ignores me, and talks about me, right in front of my face, to my other good friend (named Jordan [for reference, Jordan is a girl] ).

However, soon after sending the archived IMs to Elizabeth, Marie texted me, apologizing, explaining that she felt extremely guilty, and felt horrible about being mean to me. She told me she "talked about me" to Elizabeth, but did not specify anything. I did not know anything else about the IMs at the time, though, so I quickly forgave her, simply because I'd so terribly missed having a best friend, and missing having someone to confide in.

Well, the next day, I was at lunch, sitting with Jordan and Elizabeth. Elizabeth had come in, and said with a sour note in her voice, "I was talking to Marie last night," but said nothing more about it. She ignored me for the rest of lunch, talking to Jordan. She kept saying things like "She's such a bitch." "That stupid bitch ho." "She's a waste of a person." "She doesn't care about you either, and she doesn't want to be your friend." (Reference: I never posted anything negative about Jordan in those IMs) I quickly caught on that she was talking about me, and I instantly knew Marie had not totally told me about exactly what she sent Elizabeth.


Now, I ignore them both. Elizabeth, for not seeing that we've fought before, and that I've been a truer friend then Marie has ever been for Elizabeth. Marie, because she may have apologized, but for the four months that we hadn't spoken to each other, I said nothing negative about her, to ANYONE. And here, she had perfectly demonstrated that she has spoken about me, at least once. Possibly more.



If you took the time to read all of that, kudos to you. I hope it was worth your time, and that it's taught you something. If you've got any opinions, or suggestions on what I should do about all of this, please leave me a comment. Thanks.